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Couples therapy is a proven effective environment to help get a relationship
back on track, get out of fear patterns to love and-safety. By entering each
therapy session with a shared goal of conflict resolution and the treatment of
specific issues, both partners can work towards forging a better relationship.
The process calls each partner to stretch self — requiring self-study, honest
self-reflection, and raw integrity to engage in feeling your feelings, becoming
aware of your thoughts, and exploring how childhood wounds may impact your
ability to be a good partner.
The reality is most couples wait until they are emotionally exhausted from the
turmoil within their relationship before seeking couples counseling,
The good news is, most couples don’t wait so long that the counseling is
rendered ineffective. In fact, the majority of couples enter counseling within two
years of the onset of their problems, which gives them a reasonable opportunity
to resolve their issues, according to a recent study in the Journal of Marital and
Couples Therapy[1]. If you are just surviving and not thriving in your relationship,
it’s time to go to marriage counseling,” Ideally, a healthy marriage is made up of
two people who grow individually and together as a couple.
This therapy focuses on improving the attachment and bonding between you and your partner. Gottman method: This method involves addressing areas. It's for equipping you and your partner with problem-solving skills to solve 80% of your conflicts. It aims to improve the quality of friendship and the level of intimacy between you and your partner.
This therapy involves shaping behavior by reinforcing positive behaviors that promote stability and satisfaction, while discouraging behaviors that foster negativity.
This therapy involves identifying and changing thought patterns that negatively influence behavior. Solution-focused therapy: This therapy involves creating a plan for change and focusing on the strengths and resources of the couple. Narrative therapy: This therapy involves exploring narratives about the individuals and the relationship, and creating new stories that reflect the preferred outcomes of the couple.
In IFS therapy, then, we see the external mirroring the internal. The painful polarizations that entrap couples, the fears, the conflict, the adaptive but dysfunctional ways of coping, the rage and withdrawal, are also occurring internally between each client’s parts, causing pain and confusion, followed by feelings of loss, division, and rupture. While this synchrony between external and internal experience will, later in the therapy, begin to feel advantageous, it is initially a source of deep pain. Work with parts through the Self is needed to launch internal differentiation. The experience of compassion for one’s own inner family brings empathic recognition and tolerance for the dilemmas of our partners. Protective parts that developed out of relational rupture earlier in life gradually grow less vigilant and more trusting. With a healthy dose of Self-love, we develop more tolerance for other perspectives and loosen our grasp on the need to be right. Our hearts become less guarded. With an open heart, differences are not a threat to survival.